Putting A Stop To Procrastination
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Putting A Stop To Procrastination
While it is not a incapacitating syndrome; that is, a diagnosis found in mental health journals as a separate problem, procrastination is still inconveniencing, psychologically. It can create mild symptoms or some that are chronic, even forever annoying. Regardless, procrastination is something that can be looked at.
Procrastination is really a form of ambivalence. This is not widely well-known. Ambivalence is when part of you wants something and part of your doesn't want that something. It doesn't have to be two things that directly disagree. One of the "somethings" can be related to the other, just not the same, requiring a choice that is, at least partially, mutually exclusive. Ambivalence can be in awareness, partially in awareness or totally out of awareness. This isn't really so central to this discussion, because the subjective experience of it is agitation. It actually creates anxiety, but it is of the kind that is not usually coupled with PTSD, proper.
Procrastination pops into our behavioral dynamic when these conflicts occur in our lives and we don't want to navigate that territory. For example, I'm interested in fooling around with my wife but my son needs help with a project. I'll think about the former but want to do the later. The choices are about two things that are relatively bad bedfellows and sooner or later, I have to consider the choices. I have to pick one. Either one I pick will have a repercussion, and I know one of them will have unlikable consequences.
I usually pick the more satisfying, self-serving behavior, which consequentially means I'm putting off choosing the "other." This looks to be procrastinating, because I'm not doing something, but in reality I'm postponing dealing with a conflict. I am ambivalent, experiencing some level of fretfulness and trying bargain my way past the whole thing.
Like I said before, the things we procrastinate about can be important or slight, in or out of awareness, and be succinct or longer in time frame. Those are just the relevant details, but the intrapersonal experience of fighting ambivalence is the same in each case. We usually choose the more self-serving behavior in the service of either moving past the conflict; that is, making it fade from our awareness, or to just avoid the less pleasant of the two choices.
This latter dynamic is often a function of our rashness. As can be seen, this quality has many manifestations, some of which are helpful, like when we procrastinate in order to wait for more information before performing some action on something. Some dynamics are harmful, like when we put off finishing a project for the boss, knowing the impact on our job security.
In order to resolve procrastination, we have to see into the ambivalence. We have to "excavate" into awareness, the fullsequalae of our choices. But for the general population, to do that means we also have to do a little digging. You see, ambivalence doesn't exist in a vacuum. There are genuine psychological conditions we avoid certain things, other than they may or may not be more problematical to do than something else. Sometimes it's about not wanting to express a mood or feeling, such as conflict. If someone asks you to do something and you feel disgruntled, it is not likely you will cooperate with their request. So, you don't, on the surface, which is about not dealing with your interior state, expressing yourself and later reducing the tension of ambivalence. The superficial behavior then looks like procrastinating, when in fact, its just about avoiding conflict (which is probably at the heart of ambivalence in most cases).
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